你是女性主義者嗎? Are You a Feminist?
A friend, who had proudly claimed that she was a feminist, felt quite offended when I brought up the subject of sex and told her that it's quite a pleasure to play bottom once in a while. She was strongly convinced that I was just another typical woman who was totally unaware of the fact that I was being enslaved by the patriarchal society. And I'm quite convinced too that she would call me a womanizer if my gender were male. Faced with such strong criticism, it's a relief that I can always come back to my gay friends and have a good laugh on the very same subject, SEX.
I should check myself for calling her a typical feminist. I myself almost took part in this often too-stereotyped-to-be-true conception about feminism. What surprises me is that most self-claimed feminists, including this novice, do not have much idea about being a feminist. They all spontaneously fall into the pigeonhole and indulge themselves in the language of sentiments rather than rational analysis. When my friend urges in the hysterical tone, I found it hardly convincing and I even commit the crime of sympathizing with her boyfriend.
I finally filed my discomfort with her. "Come on, cool it down, don't get so paranoid." I tried to say it lightly, cheek in tongue is the way I put it. But she put up her face and pointed her finger directly at me: "You are the failure of the entire woman species." At that moment, I really missed my gay friends, who called me a bitch and I them too.
I doubt she has any idea that being a feminist doesn't mean to crucify the opposite sex, nor to self-righteously condescend on other women either. I don't claim myself a feminist but I know what it takes to be one. I take jokes but I can deal with the distinction between jokes and stereotypes. The sad truth is that some self-acclaimed feminists are performing the stereotypes themselves.
A friend, who had proudly claimed that she was a feminist, felt quite offended when I brought up the subject of sex and told her that it's quite a pleasure to play bottom once in a while. She was strongly convinced that I was just another typical woman who was totally unaware of the fact that I was being enslaved by the patriarchal society. And I'm quite convinced too that she would call me a womanizer if my gender were male. Faced with such strong criticism, it's a relief that I can always come back to my gay friends and have a good laugh on the very same subject, SEX.I should check myself for calling her a typical feminist. I myself almost took part in this often too-stereotyped-to-be-true conception about feminism. What surprises me is that most self-claimed feminists, including this novice, do not have much idea about being a feminist. They all spontaneously fall into the pigeonhole and indulge themselves in the language of sentiments rather than rational analysis. When my friend urges in the hysterical tone, I found it hardly convincing and I even commit the crime of sympathizing with her boyfriend.
I finally filed my discomfort with her. "Come on, cool it down, don't get so paranoid." I tried to say it lightly, cheek in tongue is the way I put it. But she put up her face and pointed her finger directly at me: "You are the failure of the entire woman species." At that moment, I really missed my gay friends, who called me a bitch and I them too.
I doubt she has any idea that being a feminist doesn't mean to crucify the opposite sex, nor to self-righteously condescend on other women either. I don't claim myself a feminist but I know what it takes to be one. I take jokes but I can deal with the distinction between jokes and stereotypes. The sad truth is that some self-acclaimed feminists are performing the stereotypes themselves.