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Being Forced to Give It Up

My Choice

Caroline

        Most parents always think that the most famous school is the best choice.」  Of course, parents hope that their children would enter the so-called 「star schools.」  In their opinion, studying in these schools means that one can receive better education and have more chance to become a successful person.  That is, those who study at the most famous schools will have a bright future because they think that most companies will put emphasis on whether one studied at well-known schools or not.  What parents do not realize is that such beliefs also become heavy burdens for their children. 

         When I was going to senior high school, my parents tried to force me to enter 「Kaohsiung girls』 high school,」 which is viewed as the best and most famous school in Kaohsiung.  Although my test scores were high enough to enter 「KGHS」, I still hoped that I could make my own choice.  I had my own reasons for not wanting to enter 「KGHS.」  First, that school is far away from my home.  If I were a student of that school, I would have to get up very early every morning to catch the bus.  And I don』t want to waste much time on transportation because I would rather get up early to preview my studies.  I wanted to study at a school next to my home.  Second, in order to have better standing in the recommendation admission program, I would have to do my best in my studies.  But if I were surrounded by all those students who have very great academic performance at KGHS, I would have no confidence in my own studies in that condition.  Then, I would get bad grades and be unhappy.  I just needed to have a sense of achievement in order to study well.  Third, I liked the style of the school that is closer to my home.  In that school, freedom is the main specialty.  Students can have more freedom to join in extracurricular activities.

  I might have my own reasons for not attending KGHS, but my parents obviously did not agree.  So I quarreled a lot with my parents over my decision.  They always thought that it would be a pity not to enter 「KGHS」 as I had the 「right」 to enter it.  Most of my friends also stood on my parents』 side.  In their point of view, I would regret it in the future if I didn』t study at that prestigious school.  I told myself to stand firm and never give up because I knew how important it was for me to do what I wanted.  This is my future and I should be the master of my future.  So I picked my ideal school without hesitation.  As I had expected, my parents were very angry and we sank into a cold war.

It was only much later that they changed their attitude.  One day, they said to me: 」Kid! Be yourself!  Do what you want to do!」  I felt so happy that I shed tears several times because my parents finally understood my thoughts.  My parents and I struggled a long time over this decision and I can still remember how hopeless and sad I felt at the time.  But if you give me a chance to change my decision, I will still say 「No!」 to KGHS because my decision at that time was the right decision.  I had a colorful and happy life at the school of my choice.  So I believe that sometimes we need to stick to our goal if we think that our choice is correct. 

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