Love and friendship are probably the most important strengths that can
support us through many troubles. However, when love and friendship
come into conflict, hat would surely cause a serious headache. Not only
would you have to struggle in the process, you would also have to risk
making fatal mistakes. I was once in such a complicated situation.
He
was one of my best friends. At one time he and his little girlfriend
had a problem, which might cause their breaking-up. His girlfriend』s
friends complained that she seemed to be ignoring them and they told the
girl their thoughts. The girl worried about losing her friends, so she
spent all her leisure time with her friends and she 「forgot」 my friend,
according to my friend. My friend tried to 「remind」 her that they were
not as close as before. In the past, they would meet each other at
least once a week (because they are in different universities), and now
he had fewer chances to be with her because most of the time she would
be with her friends instead of being with him. It really pained him to
realize that their relationship was becoming stretched. No matter how
he tried to communicate with his girlfriend, the girl refused to talk
about this and told him that he was thinking too much. At one time, the
situation got so bad that my friend feared that the relationship would
end up in a break –up.
He
said he had his own principle-- never be the one who says 「bye-bye」
first. For he didn』t want to hurt her and hoped that things might be
better someday. There were so many things he wanted to tell his
girlfriend but could not find the chance. Seeing her spending more
and more time with her friends, he chose to turn his head away and not
to think about it. His running from the problem only left him in more
confusion and pain.
Most people never want to hurt their loved one and this emotion makes it
even more difficult to balance between love and friendship. To some
people, how to deal with this kind of problems would be the first lesson
they must learn if they get a boy or girlfriend. Further more, we might
encounter the bigger problem that comes from our family later, and what
we are going to do may cause more changes or damage. The way that is
considered to be the best is to listen to the people you care about and
get to know what they want and what they want you to do. Then, ask
yourself how much you can do for them. I always believe things can be
solved through good communication.