When facing a dilemma, the ways people choose to confront it usually
differ from one to another. For example, suicides have been happening
in an endless stream recently, and it is also one of the ways for some
people to resolve the problem, but in a relatively negative way. As far
as I am concerned, one of the reasons why people react poorly to the
problems in their entangled life may be traced to their different family
backgrounds and individual personalities.
The film, 「Splendor In The Grass」 tells about about the many pressures
laid on the puppy love between the leading characters, Deanie and Bud,
including the interference and autocracy of Bud』s father, the sexual
repression between themselves and their families』 education, how they
reacted and choose the way to go on with their own life respectively.
While Bud's sexual desire was getting higher and higher, in contrast,
Deanie, due to the established virginity complex that her mother had
instilled in her for so long, could not bring herself to satisfying his
desire. Bud finally chose to leave Deanie in order not to hurt her. It
then became the most severe hurt in Deanie』s heart. When suddenly faced
with this blow, not knowing what to do, Deanie was under terrible
pressures from herself, her family, and people at school the most. She
could not eat, drink, study, let alone go to school as before. All she
could do was figure out how to win back Bud』s heart. She cast away her
pride, virginity complex, even her family members in order to satisfy
Bud, yet she found that Bud still could not accept her. In such a
dilemma, she could find no way out and she was stricken with hysteria.
This sort of example is not merely part of the movie plot but also part
of our daily life. For example, a friend of mine called Jo once had a
similar experience. One afternoon, When Jo was chatting with friends
happily at choir practice as she used to do, her eyes fell on a
good-looking new-comer. Jo could not turn her gaze away from that young
man. She felt the urge to go over and have a little chat with him, but
she couldn』t: she was too shy to take the initiative to talk to him.
She felt the struggle within and was torn between the thought of
chatting with him or giving up the idea. It was getting close to
practice time, and her inner struggle kept getting stronger. As the
choir started to sing, she could not handle the pressure anymore. Her
body began trembling violently; and nobody knew what had happened. Her
body system had simply shut off as a reaction to the problem in front of
her. She completely lost control of herself; the quiver was a solution
as well as an escape to the problem at hand.
In my opinion, while facing a difficult situation, we must realize that
there are many other solutions besides the best way out. To avoid
undesirable reactions such as committing suicide or getting hysteria,
may be one of the solutions to the problem was to put off the problem
or even leave it to someone else. We need to learn to meet the
difficulties head-on and try hard to resolve it, or, just leave it and
get on with our lives.