Men』s inexplicable attraction to prostitutes


丁嘉怡

          Since 1995, Taipei City Government has put tremendous efforts into sweeping off prostitution.  The mayor announced that he would enforce this action strictly in order to maintain the quality of life for the citizens.  He encouraged all the police to keep working hard for the goal and promised to keep at the lowest level any possible disturbance that prostitution might create for the citizens.  The Taipei City Government may regard prostitution as the root of degradation and chaos, and the Taipei citizens may view those working women as corrupted beings that will corrupt our society; however, such feelings are by no means universal.  In fact, prostitution  has helped  enrich China』s glorious history as well as  smoothing over possible social unrest .

          In ancient China, most men of letters seemed to have strong affections towards prostitutes; and prostitutes had been one of the main sources of inspiration for these men.  For instance, most of the prose work in Sung Dynasty could be regarded as dedicated to the prostitutes.  《雨霖鈴》, written by柳永in Sung Dynasty, describes the heartbreaking departure between the author and his lover-prostitute vividly; 《蘭陵王》and《少年游, written by 周邦彥also in Sung Dynasty, describe well the tangled relationship among 周邦彥、陳師師—the famous prostitute at that time and 宋徽宗 《圓圓曲》, written by 吳梅村in Ming Dynasty, is another literary work written about the strong affection of 吳三桂 toward a prostitute—陳圓圓, which eventually caused Ming Dynasty』s downfall.  All in all, when those men of letters were happy, they relaxed with their favorite prostitutes and interpreted their works through the prostitutes』 singing.  When they were frustrated, they depended on prostitutes for comfort and understanding, and throughout these ways, those men of letters would never lack inspiration.  Beside prose work, there are also many biographies written about famous prostitutes, such as 《賽金花》、《桃花扇》、《李師師》、and《小鳳仙》.  Those prostitutes in the biographies are described as 「unique  women」; 賽金花 has been regarded as the most splendidly legendary (even wise) woman in the biography; 小鳳仙 is described as a very rare woman who does not blindly follow the stereotypes; and 李香君 is as an undefiled and courageous prostitute.  Even our modern society seems to be haunted by the prostitute attraction.  The winner of Nobel Prize in Literature, V. S. Naipaul, once confessed that he is grateful for the comfort and pleasure those prostitutes provide because he is too busy to get a fine mistress.  As a failed man in marriage, Naipaul couldn』t just confess his frustration and keep blithering with his pals; at that time, nothing worked better than the caresses and tenderness from these working women for venting the emotion and feeling inspired again.

          Prostitutes have provided men not only with inspiration for literary creations, but also confidence, respect, and compliments.  Sexual transactions are not just dealings in money and sex; it involves men』s most secret and unrealizable dreams—they sometimes yearn to be immersed in carnal desire, gaining sweet pride and temporary excitement.  Michel de Montaigne, who was a great essayist and philosopher in France in the sixteenth century, had once written that the Persian kings often invited their queens to the banquets.  However, when the kings were at high glee with alcohol, they would send the queens back to their sleeping chambers while they themselves indulged in carnal pleasure.  It suggests that men not only get relief from sexual enjoyment, the sex also testifies to their ability and dignity as men.

          Throughout history, prostitutes have played multiple roles in men』s creative lives as well as political lives, and mostly for the benefit of men.  If you happen to find your boyfriend/husband having a love affair or loving to go to nightclubs, do not just roar at them and call them nasty.  If you want to completely own/control your man, you may want to figure out their inexplicable addiction, and if you really care for your man, sometimes it pays to learn to be a prostitute for him!

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